Moving the goal line in a 20-year military career

When we started dating, I was a young professional: driven, focused, and successful by most  27-year-old’s standards. My then-boyfriend was six years into a potential 20-year career in the Army. I was beginning to understand what our relationship might mean and how it could change the future I’d planned for myself. It was clear that, […]

Three Tips for Managing Expectations in a Military Marriage

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Military marriages exist in dog years. A five-year military marriage passes in a blink, feeling more like two-and-a-half short years. And yet simultaneously you feel like you’ve learned enough about marriage, about hard, about love, to rival the average 10-year marriage. You experience double the growth in half the time.  Thirteen years, seven moves, four […]

Three Best Reads of 2019

It is easy to miss “the good stuff” on social media. Been there, often! I’ll see articles posted that are several years old (from sites I actually follow) and I’m thinking, this is great, how did I miss this? Happens all. the. time. So, with that in mind, I wanted to start off 2020 by […]

Three Reasons To Meet Your Military & Family Life Counselor!

What feels like a lifetime ago, I was sitting in a Battalion Steering Committee meeting when an older gentleman introduced himself as our new MFLC – Military & Family Life Counselor. It was 2009. I listened to his elevator pitch and learned about the relatively new program.  Apparently, we’d be seeing him around now. He […]

Making an OCONUS PCS a Little Easier

While dating, my then-boyfriend and I talked a lot about the uniqueness of life in the military. In addition to our essential “napkins” conversation, one of the other discussions during our dating months centered around duty locations. My ears perked up the ONE time he’d off-handedly mentioned a European assignment. “Is that possible, an assignment […]

The Voice of the Military Spouse: It’s Never Been Louder

It hit me a few weeks ago; times are changing. We, the military spouse, are the reason. And I’ve never been prouder to be associated with a group of people. In 2019, military spouses are testifying before Congress in record numbers. Spouses are organizing petitions. Spouses are sought out by members of Congress, who see […]

Five Ways To Support Your Military Spouse Friend, Even If You Don’t Get Their Life

While the days of back-to-back-to-back deployments have waned a bit in recent years, ask any military spouse and they will tell you that the OPTEMPO – or Operational Tempo of their service member’s unit – or how busy they are – isn’t exactly one of late mornings, early evenings, and consistent family dinners. We remain […]

Being Strong Isn’t More Important Than Being Honest

Angel ornament with Hope across her chest.

If you’ve recently experienced a miscarriage this may hit a little too close to home. It may also be just what you need to hear.   A bathroom. I found out I was pregnant in the middle stall of a dirty bathroom in the base gymnasium. I’m pretty sure I was on the verge of hyperventilating. […]

The Story of Pride & Grit

For years, I’ve wanted to write a book. I didn’t know what the topic would be, but I knew there were few things I enjoyed more than spending the day in front of my computer making the words reflect how I felt. So, maybe I was a writer. Maybe I was a blogger. For sure, […]

Why I Chose A Boy Over My Career

As I walked (paced really) along the patio of my condo, I relayed my decision to a friend and colleague. I wasn’t going to apply for the job. The words took my breath away. It was the job I was already doing, a job I knew I was qualified for, a job that would boost […]