Three Tips for Managing Expectations in a Military Marriage

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Military marriages exist in dog years. A five-year military marriage passes in a blink, feeling more like two-and-a-half short years. And yet simultaneously you feel like you’ve learned enough about marriage, about hard, about love, to rival the average 10-year marriage. You experience double the growth in half the time.  Thirteen years, seven moves, four […]

Three Best Reads of 2019

It is easy to miss “the good stuff” on social media. Been there, often! I’ll see articles posted that are several years old (from sites I actually follow) and I’m thinking, this is great, how did I miss this? Happens all. the. time. So, with that in mind, I wanted to start off 2020 by […]

My Fairy-Tale Life

I began referring to my fairy-tale life back in 2011. I adopted the expression while my husband was in Afghanistan for twelve months. It was a rough deployment. Many Soldiers have experienced longer and more difficult combat deployments, I know, but this one was our first. Soldiers died. Families mourned. I often wondered whether or not my […]

PTSD, as Told by a Veteran and a Military Spouse

My name is Annette, and I am the mother of two teenagers. I am also a military spouse of over 20 years and a Retired Army Combat Veteran. What some may not know is that I also suffer from PTSD, anxiety, and depression. I’ve been living with this since 2009. Some days are better than […]

Dating My Spouse Has Saved Our Marriage

Two days before my wedding day, terrorists hijacked airplanes and attacked the United States. It was September 11th, and my father was on a flight from Washington DC, heading to our wedding destination. I didn’t know if he was safe or even alive. Suddenly, a time that should have been exciting and joyful became scary, […]

Secrets I Never Shared as a Military Spouse

I always watched my husband leave until he was completely out of my site. Most of his departures were before the sun was up – at a time we referred to as “O’Dark Thirty.” While our babies slept, I often watched the squadron mate or taxi company whisk my love away quietly as neighbors slept. […]

I Could Never Do What You Do

“I could never do what you do.” Uuuuuuuugh. Cue me, sighing dramatically and rolling my eyes. Listen, friend. Or Mom. Or college roommate. Or cousin. Or Great-Aunt Sally. Or check-out cashier at Target. You could, and you would. You would move. You would sacrifice. You would let yourself be pushed beyond the limits you ever […]

Why I Chose A Boy Over My Career

As I walked (paced really) along the patio of my condo, I relayed my decision to a friend and colleague. I wasn’t going to apply for the job. The words took my breath away. It was the job I was already doing, a job I knew I was qualified for, a job that would boost […]

The Choice That Almost Ended my Military Marriage

Originally featured on the National Family Military Association‘s Blog, this story was republished with the permission of both the author and NMFA.  I chose my career over my military husband. I’ve always been motivated to achieve. So has my husband. This joint go-get-‘em attitude is part of what attracted us to each other. As a soldier, his […]

Moving the Goal Line

When we started dating, I was a young professional: driven, focused, and successful by most 27-year-old’s standards. My boyfriend was six years into a potential 20-year career in the Army. I was just beginning to understand what our relationship might mean and how it could change the future I’d planned for myself. It was clear that, […]