Military Life Stress: Does the Past Cloud the Present?

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Occasionally, I’ll come across a quote that stops me. This one by Yung Pueblo did just that: “Ask yourself: Is this how I actually feel or is this my emotional history trying to recreate the past?” Wow, right? How many times have you told yourself that this time is going to be different? You mentally […]

I Shuffle for the Caregivers of Wounded Warriors

Last month I ran – well, sort of ran – a virtual 5K.  It was the Wounded Warrior Project (WWP) Carry Forward 5K, delivered by CSX. I ran in honor of caregivers, those heroes who care for our wounded servicemen and women. A caregiver’s quiet contributions to our society and our country are too often […]

My Fairy-Tale Life

I began referring to my fairy-tale life back in 2011. I adopted the expression while my husband was in Afghanistan for twelve months. It was a rough deployment. Many Soldiers have experienced longer and more difficult combat deployments, I know, but this one was our first. Soldiers died. Families mourned. I often wondered whether or not my […]

Secrets I Never Shared as a Military Spouse

I always watched my husband leave until he was completely out of my site. Most of his departures were before the sun was up – at a time we referred to as “O’Dark Thirty.” While our babies slept, I often watched the squadron mate or taxi company whisk my love away quietly as neighbors slept. […]

The Choice That Almost Ended my Military Marriage

Originally featured on the National Family Military Association‘s Blog, this story was republished with the permission of both the author and NMFA.  I chose my career over my military husband. I’ve always been motivated to achieve. So has my husband. This joint go-get-‘em attitude is part of what attracted us to each other. As a soldier, his […]

Why I View Our Separations As A Gift

Number five, CHECK! Though still many weeks away, I can’t escape the quiet excitement at the thought of wrapping up another deployment. This weekend, I found myself thinking that as much as I don’t enjoy being without my husband for nine months, I can’t help but be grateful for a few blessings these months have […]

Mud Trails, Husband Fails, and A Change of Heart

Ok. So, fellow wives, maybe you know the feeling. The feeling when you worked hard vacuuming and mopping the floors, which is apparently an invitation for your clueless husband to parade through the house in his muddy boots. I mean, DUDE… The thoughts? “Oh my WORD, when will he learn??????” “Why am I the only one who […]