5 Military Spouse Tips for a Better Military Retirement

Military transition or retirement can look different for everyone, we can all use some tips for what to look out for, right?   Five years ago, our family lived a “revolving door” life typical of those assigned to a training center. Our soldier was always coming or going, week after week, late night after late night. […]

Be a Part of the Military Transition Conversation

Transitions can be difficult. As a military spouse for one, two or three decades you’ve certainly lived through more than your fair share of them. And for that, all of us here at USAA would like to tip our caps to you as you embark on what could be the most challenging of the many […]

Who Encourages the Seasoned Military Spouses?

At some point, after juggling multiple challenges of military life, relocating your family, re-starting your career, and navigating a lot of time apart from your spouse, you’ve gained invaluable experience and become a seasoned spouse. On the one hand, for some, there’s a badge of honor that comes with being a seasoned spouse. You have […]

Moving the goal line in a 20-year military career

When we started dating, I was a young professional: driven, focused, and successful by most  27-year-old’s standards. My then-boyfriend was six years into a potential 20-year career in the Army. I was beginning to understand what our relationship might mean and how it could change the future I’d planned for myself. It was clear that, […]

Three Ideas to Improve Your Military Marriage

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Military marriages exist in dog years. A five-year military marriage passes in a blink, feeling more like two-and-a-half short years. And yet simultaneously you feel like you’ve learned enough about marriage, about hard, about love, to rival the average 10-year marriage. You experience double the growth in half the time.  Thirteen years, seven moves, four […]

Three Reasons To Meet Your Military & Family Life Counselor!

What feels like a lifetime ago, I was sitting in a Battalion Steering Committee meeting when an older gentleman introduced himself as our new MFLC – Military & Family Life Counselor. It was 2009. I listened to his elevator pitch and learned about the relatively new program.  Apparently, we’d be seeing him around now. He […]

My Fairy-Tale Life

I began referring to my fairy-tale life back in 2011. I adopted the expression while my husband was in Afghanistan for twelve months. It was a rough deployment. Many Soldiers have experienced longer and more difficult combat deployments, I know, but this one was our first. Soldiers died. Families mourned. I often wondered whether or not my […]

Dating My Spouse Has Saved Our Marriage

Two days before my wedding day, terrorists hijacked airplanes and attacked the United States. It was September 11th, and my father was on a flight from Washington DC, heading to our wedding destination. I didn’t know if he was safe or even alive. Suddenly, a time that should have been exciting and joyful became scary, […]

Losing (and Finding) Your Sense of Identity

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Modern day housewife; a challenge and a blessing. I grew up in England and have spent most of my life there. Now I find myself married to an American soldier, living with him in Germany. Yes, that’s quite the head spin. I met a charming, lovely young man who immediately made me feel at ease. […]

Secrets I Never Shared as a Military Spouse

I always watched my husband leave until he was completely out of my site. Most of his departures were before the sun was up – at a time we referred to as “O’Dark Thirty.” While our babies slept, I often watched the squadron mate or taxi company whisk my love away quietly as neighbors slept. […]